effort levels - so we're clear

katie's thing.
she has realized setting deadlines creates power struggles.
her actual objective is to communicate there is a lack of partnership in the marriage.
she has nothing left to loose because she does not like what she has.

mark thing.
mark admits more often than not he discounts katie's needs in order to
accomplish his own goals, ends, and opinions. he admits this behavior does not exhibit partnership.

new, starting april 4th, method of reconnecting for our marriage:
1. katie will make decisions based on mark's behavior.